Written by Ringicha Chakma, 2nd year
” We’ve been there. We’ve done that.”
“You know, ‘the growing up’ business.”
Someone has wisely said that growing up is a huge pain-in-the-ass. Forgive my opening salvo, but this is as close as we can get (should we choose to be “inappropriate”) in order to explain the adolescent period that everyone in their lifetime goes through. Tough, isn’t it?
To be no longer a child and yet…. not an adult?
If growing up has taught us anything at all, is this: it’s never over until it’s over.
Or maybe we just don’t want to grow up. Maybe it’s too much to take, too much to handle, too much to breathe. Perhaps, it’s too much too soon?
Music plays an important role in the life of us human beings, and even more so, during the transition from one’s childhood to its emerging adulthood. Here is a compiled list of songs that evokes just about the right emotions that one feels during this turbulent period of one’s life, and inspires one to mould oneself into the kind of adult they want to be.
- I’m just a kid by Simple Plan
Whoever says that adolescence is the easiest phase of one’s life surely needs to give it a rethink and take a detour down memory lane. If making friends wasn’t hard enough, trying to fit in with the crowd and getting them to like you back, was even more. As Simple Plan cries out in its chorus, “I’m just a kid and life is a nightmare”, the phrase ‘truer words were never spoken’ comes to mind. After all, adolescence is a stage when peer acceptance matters greatly, and none of us particularly look forward to being alienated by our age group.
2. Fifteen by Taylor Swift
Hey, Taylor Swift fans! This song is for all girls out there! No one gets us like Taylor Swift does. Irrespective of whether you agree or disagree, it is undeniable that her songs have resonated with a huge legion of teenage girls.
Adolescent girls are often said to be more vicious to each other as compared to their male counterparts. Backbiting, name-calling and teasing- these are often life-changing for many. Taylor Swift in this song draws inspiration from her very own life and tells us how she’s like, at fifteen- and her experiences do resonate with many of us- whether it’s believing declarations of true love and marriage, wholeheartedly believing in the myth of the Prince Charming, going out on a nervous first date and even, for some, the loss of virginity. Fifteen is a tender age where getting involved in a romantic relationship is pretty much on the agenda on almost every girl’s mind, and inevitably giving way to our very own first heart-break.This is all part of growing up.
3. Still fighting it – Ben Folds
Growing up is a life-long struggle. It never ends. This song accurately depicts the shared sentiment that we all feel – “We’re still fighting it.” The transitional period from a child to an adult is painful, to say the least; one has to deal with issues like independence, self-identity, studies, peer pressure, social life, and romantic relationships. So obviously, when the song plays these following lines, “Everybody knows/ It sucks to grow up”, we cannot help but nod in empathy.
4. Hero – Family of the Year
Well, who doesn’t want to run away from life and its responsibilities when it gets too tough to deal with? After all, we only have two shoulders (if not bony) and there is only so much load we can take on our shoulders before we feel like exploding like potent firecrackers on New Year’s Eve! We just want to let go at times, to not to be burdened by expectations- simply because we are not ready yet. Maybe growing up and coming to terms with adulthood is something that shouldn’t be forced upon. But more often than not, it’s our circumstances, fate and life itself which compel us to walk that extra mile towards becoming an adult. Ready or not, life happens. If not, we can always listen to this song and brood with all that teenage angst in the corner of our rooms.
5. Wake up – Arcade Fire
This is what happens when you realize that life out there in the real world is not what you could ever fathom even in your wildest dreams. This is that stage of your adolescence when you part with your innocence and naivety and you wake up to see the world for its true colours. It’s hard and it’s cruel. It toughens you up. And as the lyrics of this song goes, “Now that I’m older/ my heart’s colder.” Again, my friend, this is all part of growing up.
6. Forever Young – Jay Z feat Mr Hudson
If only we could freeze time and space, and if only we could live forever young. But in our hearts and in our very souls, we know we are forever young. It has nothing to do with age. and everything to do with spirit. We are young. We are awesome. And we know it.
This is our list of a few songs that make us reminisce about growing up and prepare us for the impending doom, that is, adulthood. What about yours? Tell us your favourites! What are the songs that has helped/ still helps you survive growing up?